Values, Beliefs and Priorities

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Now that we have taken the first step by deciding what we want, before we go on we need to select which desires on our Master Dream List we will turn into reality right now. To do this we need to filter them through our personal values and beliefs and then put in priority order those that make the grade. There is nothing more frustrating than putting in heaps of effort into something that doesn’t really fit who we are and is not in line with our personal mission statement.

The caption you are straining to read in the picture above really encapsulates what is the most important part of the goal setting journey.

“A hundred years from now it will not matter what my bank account was, the sort of house I lived in, or the kind of car I drove: however, the world will be different because I was important in the life of a child”

Personal Mission Statement

Just like a successful multi national corporation, each of us need to have a written mission statement that keeps us on track and accountable. If we know where we ultimately want to end up, and who we want to be when we get there, it is easy to select goals that will take us there. Take some time to think this through and write down a statement that describes this for you. Ask yourself questions like “Why do I exist” and “What is important to me”. An easy way to do this is to imagine you have just been told you only have six months left to live and make a list of what you would get done in that time. You, like most people I talk to about this, would probably have more “people” on your list than “things”.

My personal mission is to help people break free of the sense of hopelessness that comes from not having enough knowledge, time or energy to be all we are called to be in our world. The primary purpose of my life is to serve God, my family and the community around me. Having this in front of me makes it easy to filter any opportunity or dream that comes across my path.

Now that you have taken the time to write one for yourself, you too will have a greater sense of purpose as you set your goals for the future.

O.K, now that we are better equipped for the process, let’s go back to our Master Dream List and cull any entries that do not fit with our values and beliefs that form our mission statement.

Physical, Spiritual, Social and Work

The next step I take is to categorize my dreams into these four areas of my life.

Physical – health, fitness, nutrition, recreation, comfort
Spiritual – God, life purpose, making a difference, helping others
Social – family, home, friends, human interactions
Work – business, job, career, personal growth

We now have four separate lists to prioritise. Simply look at each list and place a number next to each dream, ranking them from most to least importance.

Great work! Now things are a lot clearer. We not only know what we truly want, we know why we want it.

A few weeks ago we started a journey together. By doing this, you have already shown yourself that you can set a goal. The fact that you are still with me means you have everything it takes to turn your dreams into goals and then do what it takes to achieve them. Take a bow, give yourself a “well done”, you are a goal setter!

Next week we will move ahead into the last phase of our journey on this subject. We know what and why, all that is left now is the how.

Have an awesome week. Love to hear your thoughts so please leave me a reply and feel free to ask me any questions.

Cheers

Grant Herbert
The People Builder

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Nothing happens without first a dream

Welcome to everyone who is joining me on this journey of taking control of our future by setting some positive goals and going after them. By doing this, we have already put ourselves in the top 3 % of people in the world.

The first step in setting and achieving our goals is to decide WHAT we want. Before we get on to that step though, we need to do some pre work to ensure we set the right goals. We must get our personal mindset in a healthy place and rekindle the fire of dreams past that have been quenched by the circumstances of our journey so far. I suggest we all take a quick trip to the past to let go of any disappointments and regrets. When we do this we will be able to pick up some old dreams we have buried and bring them forward to today. The key to this process being successful, is only staying there for a short time and not getting trapped by a loss of enthusiasm and self belief. As goal setters we now draw a line in the sand, inhabit today and plan our tomorrows. We cannot change the past, we can only learn from it and use our experiences as a motivator to change.

Nothing happens without first a dream……

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Over the years my dreams have changed with my priorities. From the age of eight I wanted to own a black 911 Porsche. I used to spend hours dreaming about the freedom of driving it through a mountain range with the top down and a cool breeze in my hair. I had pictures of it everywhere, I made models of it, I already owned it. Along my journey I lost the desire to own that Porsche, as I did with a lot of other things. The car didn’t change but my values and priorities did.

For me to set my goals today I must first look at what and who is important to me. Funnily enough, not to many of my dreams today are about material things but more about a lifestyle.

Let’s get started.

Take out a large sheet of paper and find a quiet spot. We are going to spend the next hour putting our dreams on paper. To get the most out of this exercise we need to give ourselves permission to have fun and let go of our fears. Just let our imagination lead us and as soon as something pops into our head, quickly write it down, without leaving enough time to talk ourselves out of it with our limiting beliefs. Go wild, write it all down, fill the page, you can do it!

Over the next few days, and for the rest of our lives, we need to keep adding to this Master Dream List as new dreams are given to us. This becomes a working document of the “desires of our heart”. We will continually maintain this as a reservoir from which to draw enthusiasm, motivation and the raw materials for setting goals.

Have a lot of fun with this exercise this week and next week we will take the next step together in our goal setting journey.

Have an awesome week, you deserve it!

Cheers

Grant Herbert
The People Builder

Beyond the Economic Crisis

Yesterday Australians everywhere were greeted with the news that we have started our recovery from the Global Economic Recession. Great news you would think. The challenge for most people I spoke to yesterday was the effect this would have on future interest rates over the next 12 months. Fear took positive news and turned it into a negative. Understandable, I suppose, when most people are living so close to the edge, week by week, hoping for a brighter future with no apparent way of controlling it. All too often we hear comments blaming the government, our boss or a myriad of other circumstances we have no control over.

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Do you want some good news? Of course you do!

Instead of looking outward and blaming things outside our control, we can change our situation and be ready for the interest rate rises and not fear them. We can focus on some adjustments and minor changes that will ensure the books are balanced and we are in control.

I am not a financial guru, I have to work on this stuff myself every day. I am just going to share with you some stuff I know works. There are plenty of professional organisations that can give us actual financial advice but we still have to make the changes.

As for me and my house, we are going to set some goals and ensure the changes that are coming do not have a negative impact on our business and family life.

There are only 2 areas we can make changes that are in our control:

1. Increase our income
2. Reduce our outgoings

We have the opportunity to plan our future by setting and achieving goals in one or both these areas.

So what is Goal Setting? A process of deciding what you want, why you want it and what action needs to be taken to get it. A goal is completing something we said we would, within an allotted time frame.

We can break our goals down into 3 categories?

1. Short Term – daily or weekly.
2. Medium Term – monthly
3. Longer Term – yearly and beyond.

Every weekly goal has daily goals, every monthly goal has weekly goals and every yearly goal has, OK you get the picture. Small steps, one at a time.

Over the coming weeks we will look more deeply at the process and work together on doing what we can to secure our future and becoming cash flow positive.

As a coach it is not my role to set your goals for you, however I can certainly help you get on track and stay there.

Have a prosperous week!

Cheers

Grant Herbert

The People Builder

Forgiveness….The Sweetest Revenge!

One of the most debilitating pieces of baggage we can carry around every day is UNFORGIVENESS! It has the ability to sap out all our energy and control the way we live.

In our search for the “perfect balance” in our lives, we need to recognise the power we have in our ability to forgive. So what is forgiveness?

Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do FOR someone else. It is not complicated. It is simple. Simply identify the situation to be forgiven and ask yourself: “Am I willing to waste my energy further on this matter?” If the answer is “No,” then that’s it! All is forgiven.

Forgiveness

Forgiveness dares you to imagine a better future, one that is based on the blessed possibility that your hurt will not be the final word on the matter. It challenges you to give up your destructive thoughts about the situation and to believe in the possibility of a better future. It builds confidence that you can survive the pain and grow from it.

Telling someone you forgive them is a bonus, however it is not necessary in beginning the process that heals the hurt. Forgiveness has little or nothing to do with another person because forgiveness is an internal matter.

There is nothing so bad that cannot be forgiven. Nothing!

The greatest misconception about forgiveness is the belief that forgiving the offense means that you condone it. This is not true. In fact, we can only forgive what we know to be wrong. Forgiveness does not mean that you always have to reconcile with someone who badly treated you.

Another misconception is that it depends on whether the person who did you wrong apologizes, wants you back, or changes his or her ways. If another person’s poor behavior were the primary determinant for your healing then the unkind and selfish people in your life would retain power over you indefinitely. Forgiveness is the experience of finding peace inside and can neither be compelled nor stopped by another.

I believe that to withhold forgiveness is to choose to continue to remain the victim. Remember, you always have choice.

When you forgive you do it for you, not for the other person. The person you have never forgiven. . . owns you! That is only and always your choice. The choice to forgive is only and always yours.

When you feel that forgiveness is necessary, do not forgive for “their” sake. Do it for yourself! It would be great if they would come to you and ask forgiveness but you must accept the fact that some people will never do that. That is their choice. They do not NEED to be forgiven. They did what they did and that is it – except for the consequences, which THEY must live with.

The hurts won’t heal until you forgive! Recovery from wrongdoing that produces genuine forgiveness takes time. For some, it may take years. Don’t rush it. Constantly reliving your wounded feelings gives the person who caused you pain power over you. Instead of mentally replaying your hurt, it helps to focus your energy on the healing, not the hurt!

Forgiveness breaks the cycle of hatred, resentment, anger and pain that is often passed on to those around you. Forgiveness helps you make peace with your past.

Forgiveness is the sweetest revenge. The only people you should ever want to get even with are those who have helped you.

Forgiveness. What it’s for? It creates the freedom to create a new future beginning now!

Cheers

Grant Herbert
The People Builder